WOHM

Yes, I am a working outside of the home mother, does that mean I am not a full time mother? nope! I don't understand the logic of this at all. If I did not work, I would be a welfare recepient. I would much rather be self sufficient than live off of the government. I work in social work so I do see both sides of the coin. I am a single mom, therefore, I do not have a husband to bring home the bacon. So guess what? I have to put my children in day care and go to work all day. But then guess what? I still have to come home and do everything in 5 hours that a "SAHM" gets to spread throughout her 16 hour day. NOT at all saying that SAHM have it easier!!! I give them a LOT of respect~! I daydream sometimes about being one!! I do get 4 weeks off in a year with my vacation/sick time so sometimes I will take a day off and still send the kids to day care and go to appointments/deep clean the house/shop/take a nap! I also will take a day off with one child and send the other 2 to daycare so I can get some much needed 1 on 1 time with them. It just depends on what is going on. L starts school in a couple weeks. (young 5's) so I will be taking half day off next week to take her school clothes/supplies shopping. I just have to rearrange things, but really I do everything that a SAHM does, just have a job 40/week squeezed in there too. It works for me for now. I just had to post because this debate came up on a certain birth board recently and i was too much of a chicken to post my 2 cents on there :)

I forgot about this thing.

Well, it's been a while. I lost my favorites list a while back at work and this got lost in the process. but i'm back! I read the previous post and my life really hasn't changed much in the past year. Except for the fact that I now have a 4yr, 1yr and now a 6 month old! It's ridiculous how fast the time is going. My life still feels crazy, but I guess that is because it actually is! I don't have a pause button. I am constantly moving. My only sanity is coming to work everyday. How many people can say that? I consider work my "me" time. That's ok though, it keeps me sane and that is all that matters is what works for us and me. Chris: well, he called a while back, I think it was May 5th we had a court hearing regarding child support. He still had not contacted us at all since Aug. 09. So we had this hearing and it ended up the child support stayed the same. So surprise surprise he called after the hearing(the same day) to try and set up parenting time. He was supposed to bring that up at the hearing. So I called my lawyer to see how to handle the situation. It ended up that I called him and left him a voice mail that he was supposed to complete the parenting class and I still did not have any documents proving that he did that. Once received we will move forward with parenting time. He called me back TONS of times, and I tried calling him back twice and he never answered so I just started ignoring his calls. He's having another baby, too, I found out. He stopped calling me now, so I'm sure that means I will get something in the mail inregard to a hearing of some sort. Ohwell. I will not subject L to him when he is being such a half assed dad, what's he want his annual fix? He actually has pictures of her on his facebook that are from our supervised visits last year that say crap like, "my princess" and when I saw that it literally made me gag. D: Oh, D. Good ol' D. There are so many stories, I don't even want to revisit them. Currently he is being an excellent dad to the kids. He comes over in the AM and helps me out with getting them ready before school/daycare. Then he is always there at daycare at the end of the day to help with picking them up. He comes to my house and helps with dinner, bathtime and bedtime. Then leaves. It is a GREAT set up. We are doing wonderfully as parents. Right now. There have been some altercations here and there, but right now, at present, things are good. He starts a new job, today actually, that is 2nd shift, therefore, I will no longer have help in the weekends. Let's hope this doesn't cause insanity for me. Back in March of this year I received an anonymous email on facebook from some girl. She stated how she worked with D and how they were more than friends from January until recently(recently being March when I received the email). She finished the email by telling me she was 2 months pregnant with his child. My jaw dropped. I was at work and ran to the bathroom and started to cry. Little B was only 3 months old at the time I got that email and the next month was a blur. I've never gotten such a slap in the face in my life. It's not like D and I were a couple at that time(kinda like how we are now). So it didn't hurt as much as it could have if say, we were married or even a boyfriend/girlfriend type couple. Nonetheless, it was painful. He does not love her, he told me he wants me, and never even wanted her at all. He's(so far) not going to be involved with her or this child(how sad because I know what that feels like, too). Ugh. I'm over it now, in a sense. Probably because it's over between them. It could be much worse. much. and that is what keeps me going. The kids are great! Baby B is seriously the happiest baby, ever! He is OH SO happy! L and J are both great big sisters. J is going through the terrible 2's (at age 1) and is giving me a run for my money. L is sometimes intolerable, but what 4 year old isn't? I am trucking along. I'm a day by day type of person and today...is good!